Sex and sanctification

Marcus says that the churches don’t need to abandon the supernatural worldview of traditional Christianity in order to survive, but that they should re-think their sexual ethic, since the sexual revoution is a fait accompli.

I think he may be on to something, though I might quibble about a few things.

During much of the 19th and 20th centuries Christians were subjected to a torrent of commentary, much of it by theologians and clergymen, that “modern man” is no longer able to believe in the worldview of the Bible with its anthropomorphic God and his interventions in the physical cosmos. No one can “use the wireless” and beleive in the three-tiered universe of earth, heaven, and, hell.

The funny thing is that this appears to be flatly untrue. In point of fact, people seem quite able, psychologically, to believe in all sorts of supernatural phenomena while being quite comfortable with the world of modern technology. Just walk into any bookstore in America and note the ever-expanding “New Age” sections, not to mention those dedicated to the more traditional faiths. Fundamentalist Protestants expertly deploy the latest in communication technologies. It seems like every other week we read about a new apparition of the Blessed Virgin. Creeping secularism seems to have given way to a proliferation of quirky ideas about the supernatural world.

And, anyway, the hermetically sealed universe of Englightenment philosophy never made much logical sense either. If there is a God who created the universe and the laws that govern it, and who sustains it in its being at every moment, why couldn’t he intervene if he so chose? This point hit me like a ton of bricks when reading C.S. Lewis’ Miracles after spending a couple of years plowing through theologians like Tillich and Bultmann who insisted on demythologizing everything in the Christian story that smacked of “supernaturalism.” (Young and foolish as I was, I wanted to see if there was anything left of Christianity that an enlghtened modern such as myself could still believe in.) Lewis simply pointed out, quite cogently I thought (and still do), that if “we decide that Nature is not the only thing there is, then we cannot say in advance whether she is safe from miracles or not.”

Moreover, the drift of philosophy and theology in recent years has been away from the Englightenment view of the world due in part to a realization that “reason” as the Enlightenment understood it is far to narrow to make sense of all our experience. In this sense someone like Bishop Spong is something of a throwback – someone who still thinks the philosophy of Voltaire is cutting edge.

So, I agree with Marcus that “miracle and mystery” are not quite the obstacles for “modern man” that they’ve been made out to be.

But I think he’s right that the Church’s tradtional ethical teaching, especially its sexual morality, does provide an obstacle for many people. But I don’t think we should pose the choice as “traditional morality” vs. the sexual revolution. Even if we agree that the traditional sexual ethic may need rethinking, there are certain aspects of the “sexual revolution” (and I’m sure Marcus would agree with this) that the church should say “no” to. I don’t think she should make peace with promiscuity, prostitution, and pornography, for instance.

If the church’s sexual ethic has to be rethought, I think it needs to be rethought within a theological context. That is, what is sexual love for, theologically speaking?

One approach that may have promise is suggested by Eugene Rogers in an essay in the Christian Century from last year. Drawing on the Eastern Orthodox tradition Rogers says that sexuality is not (primarily, at least) for procreation, but for sanctification:

Sexuality, in short, is for sanctification, that is, for God. It is to be a means by which God catches human beings up into the community of God’s Spirit and the identity of God’s child. Monogamy and monasticism are two ways of embodying features of the triune life in which God initiates, responds to and celebrates love.

Rogers goes on to argue that for people who find themselves attracted to members of the same sex, monogamous partnerships can provide the kind of context for growing in holiness that traditional marriage provides for heterosexuals.

I’m not sure if his argument succeeds; for one, he seems a little too dismissive of the weight of Scripture and Tradition. (And I confess to being pretty conflicted about the matter myself.)

But the point, I think, is this: the church shouldn’t simply go along with whatever the larger society is saying, be it in sexual mores or any other area. But instead of simply saying “no” it needs to provide a powerful positive vision of what sexuality is for in God’s plan. To the extent that the Christian tradition has given the impression that marriage is simply a way to contain lust or strictly for procreation it may have failed to uphold that kind of positive vision. Maybe such a vision is already there, but if so I think it’s fair to say that the churches haven’t done a great job communicating it. And I think people want sexuality to be meaningful; surely the kind of banal hedonism that our culture all too often promotes must be leaving a lot of people unsatisified.

Oops – I just broke my rule about not posting on sex or gay marriage. Oh well.

Comments

16 responses to “Sex and sanctification”

  1. Joshie

    Excellent post Lee! I think the challege, as always, is to bring the Tradition into contact with the contemporary situation.

    I had a PK friend who said she never dated Christian men because they always put pressure on her to fool around while non-Christian men always respected her when she told them she was a practicing Christian. The church’s unwillingness to address sexuality in a positve way (or at all) has led to a situation where many Christian adults see their only options as being a hypocrite or being a prude. There must be a third way, and the church needs to articulate it soon.

  2. Chip Frontz

    Good point, Joshie – however, it might be explained by fascination and respect for the different. A Christian man dating a Christian woman might assume that the woman wants what he, as a Christian, still wants – a strong sexual relationship – where the non-Christian man would, ironically, have more respect for the alien quality of the Christian woman. As long as we’re trading anecdotes – it’s sort of like what an Orthodox Jewish friend told me once about it being a heck of a lot easier observing Orthodoxy in Lancaster County, Pa., than in NYC where she was surrounded by Orthodox Jews.

    Lee, I have replied to your post on my blog: http://concordblog.blogspot.com/2005/06/do-we-need-to-change-rules.html

  3. Joshie

    Her point was, I believe, that the superficial “alien” respect given to her by non-Christians was greater than the respect her brothers in Christ gave her as their spiritual sister, which is certainly not the way things SHOULD be. There needs to be some sort of reasonable middle way between the “anything goes” sexuality of her Christian suitors and the sexual prudishness of many Christian singles and teens.

  4. Lee

    Pr. Frontz – I think you make some good points in your post. There is a tendency to see sex per se as transcendent or sacramental, one which I think ought to be resisted. The author of the Century article I linked to is not as careful about this as he might have been, IMO. We shouldn’t, of course, think of sex (or anything other than Jesus Christ!) as the source of our sanctification.

    Maybe it would be better to think of marriage, for instance, along the lines of Luther’s doctrine of the vocation – as a setting in which our self-will is crucified as we learn to live with another person and attend to their needs. Or, to put it more positively, as a “school of virtue” (as Gilbert Meilaender has called it) – a “place” where we learn what it means to love another person, with the hope that this will carry over into other spheres of life.

    That still leaves unresolved the issue of homosexuality, which, as I said, I’m conflicted about. But I think we could agree, at least, that stable monogomous unions are better for everyone than promiscuity. And that stable long-term relationships between gay people could well be “schools of virtue” as well?

  5. chip frontz

    Lee – right on with the idea of marriage as a setting for discipleship.

    Robert Benne, in Ordinary Saints, puts marriage under “places of responsibility,” following the “orders of creation” idea (or “orders of preservation” as Bonhoeffer would have it. In his chapter on marriage and family he talks about sex within marriage in the traditional “dike against sin” category (1 Corinthians 7). To wit:

    “We moderns shrink from such negative principles because we have been convinced that sex is a natural impulse – maybe even a right – to be expressed according to each person’s choice. We optimistically assume that sexual expression is harmless as long as it occurs between consenting parties…But the facts of the matter suggest that the sexual license that has resulted from our permissiveness has led to unforeseen results.”

    I think he doesn’t go nearly far enough in one sense – that aside from being harmless, any restraint of sexual expression in this culture is actually seen as being harmful and injurious to one’s well-being.

    Benne would see homosexual relationships as a distortion, however, of the createdness of humanity as male and female. The sexual union, therefore, of male and female is paradigmatic for God’s intent. Although he might have sympathy for the idea of a stable homosexual relationship as a deterrent to other less destructive self-expressions, he could not affirm it as “life-giving.”

    Maybe that is the whole problem – sex is not “life-giving.” It is part of life, not life itself. It is our tendency toward idolatry that views it so.

  6. Lee

    One other thing I wanted to throw in the mix – where does/should the church draw the line between being “realistic” in what she expects of people and compromising her witness? After all, Christians through history have often been called to a heroic witness in defiance of the prevaling cultural norms of their time. Do we modern Western Christians presume that we are entitled to a certain level of comfort and satisfaction of our desires?

  7. Joshie

    I have sympathy with your (plural) aims with regard to not idolizing sexuality, but it is, literally, life giving. Humans reproduce sexually. New humans are born thru sex. Even IVF involves the union of an egg and sperm which is sexual reproduction, so it is life-giving in the most literal sence.

    I have had my Protestantism challenged for such views, but I think sexuality, like the eucahrist is a symbol of God’s unity through Christ with God’s people, described as the bride of Christ. And as a symbol, it is united in some way with (though not identical to) what it symbolizes. This unity is a joyful, worshipful one that leads to reproduction, i.e. the spiritual and numerical growth of the church. This is fleshed out in the Christian mystical tradition, but is based in the NT in images of the church as the bride of Christ and Christ as the bridegroom. These terms are inherently sexual.

    Some male Christian mystics even spoke of Christ as lover (the English monk Richard Rolle for instance) with good scriptural precedent, so this symbol is not necessarily limited to male/female relations. I also think its going too far to read a ban on contraception into the need for worship to lead to evangelism. Care needs to be taken, too, to relate the entire economic Trinity in consideration so we don’t get sucked into a “Jesus Only” sort of position

    All this, of course is symbolic, and a model for understanding God and our relationship with God, but to strip it down to purely clinical terms is to rob us of one of God’s greatest gifts.

  8. Lee

    I agree that sexuality symbolizes the love of God – both God’s love for his people and the communion of love between the persons of the Holy Trinity. And that it is one of his greatest gifts to us.

    Still, I think we have to say that under the conditions of sin our sexual desires are disordered, and thus need to be tutored and corrected. Not all sexual acts participate in the love of God any more than all acts of eating are epiphanies of Christ’s presence among us.

    I think our society has a rather paradoxical view of sex. On the one hand it’s “no big deal”, just a bodily function that can be deployed any way we like (so long as we’re “safe” about it). On the other hand, I think Pr. Frontz is right that sex is often treated as the highest (or at least an essential) good of human life and anyone who isn’t “sexually active” is deemed to be living a deeply incomplete human life.

    I think the Christian view, here as elsewhere, is to affirm the goodness of created things, while ordering them to the highest good, which is our communinon with God.

  9. Joshie

    you Lutherans always have to bring sin into it don’t you?! 😉

  10. Eric Lee

    Great post!

    Just walk into any bookstore in America…

    Not sure if you were aware of what you were doing here, but this is a very astute observation of the market (ultimately controlled by the state) here in America. It’s like a mall: preppy, goth, punk, senior citizens, nerds, middle-aged rockstars, pagans Christians, et. al. are all welcome, even if they come from different, even antithetical backgrounds; the large umbrella of the market allows for all sorts of traditions — unless you’re poor.

    the church shouldn’t simply go along with whatever the larger society is saying, be it in sexual mores or any other area.

    This is awesome good. The Church should never be correlationist!

    Not sure if you read Myle’s “Taking off and Landing” blog, but this is a related, especially to your last posted comment about those who think that those who aren’t procreating in marriage are somehow not following “God’s will” (like Al Mohler’s voluntaristic opinion):

    http://mwerntz.excogito.org/archives/2005/06/sometimes_i_fee.html

  11. Eric Lee

    whoa, “awesome good” was slightly a typo, but I’m a San Diegan, so I guess people can just assume “that figures” if they want 😛

  12. chip frontz

    Joshie – regarding “life-giving,” yes, you’re right, of course, and I thought of that after I posted it. However, the intent I had was that sex – even good sex – does not necessarily equal emotional/spiritual health.

    Lee is right when he posts that the fact that the wedding banquet is an image of the kingdom of heaven does not take the ambiguity out of eating.

    Of course, in the majority of the Christian world marriage is a sacrament.

  13. chip frontz

    Lee – we would agree that the call of Christ to discipleship extends into the sexual arena. That is going to be lived out in several ways. For some people it is going to be a victory if they move in together two years before the marriage, and then live faithfully with each other for 50 years. I don’t think that is what the church ought to proclaim as the model, but that is the reality. I think the Church (and I think that the Catholics are in the same boat as we non-RC’ers) has to create a structure that makes chastity and faithfulness possible. What this means might include but not be limited to starting early with the demolishment of idolatrous notions sexuality, making marriage in the late teen years and early twenties acceptable again, and deemphasizing the idea of the ultimate wedding/honeymoon and substituting something more affordable both financially and emotionally.

    I have more to say about the early marriage bit but can’t right now. Suffice it to say that I think that we need to equip our young men and women to think “out-of-the-box” regarding when one takes on adult responsibilities. It is incredibly difficult, in this culture, to do this and to do it right.

    Comments, corrections, and shocked rejoinders welcome.

  14. Joshie

    Sex and eating together are not ambiguous. They are good, AS THEY WERE CREATED (key point). They are holy images of the divine reality. In this way they are sacramental in a sense. They can and are distorted, certainly, but that’s the nature of any mirror, any image is distorted somewhat. But they are, in their essence, holy and sacramental. When you simply relagate them to the realm of “oh that’s another good thing God created like frogs or nitrogen” we miss the point of the scriptures when they use those images for God’s relationship to the church and humanity.

    On your other ideas chip, your idea about early marriages is interesting but it seems more like trying to pound post-modern Christians into pre-modern social structures. The church should be counter-cultural but for the sake of the gospel not just for the sake of being counter-cultural.

    Whether our culture is truely sex-obessed or not, the church is anything BUT. Sexual issues are almost never discussed in church contexts because sex is considered impolite, or something that is not family-friendly, although sex is obviously where the family begins in the first place. This needs to change before any sort of reconstruction of Christian sexual teaching is begun. When the church doesn’t talk about sex it ceedes its responsibility to the world outside the church and that’s where we learn how to be sexual creatures.

  15. Lee

    I share Josh’s ambivalence about early marriage – surely extended periods of education and establishing a career are the primary reasons most people delay marriage nowadays, so how would we encourage early marriage (assuming to do so is desirable) under those conditions?

  16. Chip Frontz

    My thoughts on early marriage (by which I mean marriage between the ages of 18 and 24) are certainly unformed (and perhaps uninformed). Nevertheless, here are a few attempts to put some flesh on them.

    1. The furthering of education and establishing a career part of life directly conflicts with the living in marriage part of life. We have this “in-between” part of life from age 18 extending often to past 30, where adult responsibilities are taken on piecemeal. Human beings are fully sexually developed and emotionally they become ready for commitment, etc., but the economic and educational pieces mitigate against realizing that in a healthful, public way.

    Now instead you have a culture that puts marriage off until one is “established,” and creates more and more hoops to jump through (master’s degrees, internships, years abroad in college, etc.) before establishment. For six to twelve years one is hard pressed to commit to a mate, which leads to (you guessed it) a lack of commitment.

    I notice that those who get married early (not the she-got-pregnant so we-got-married crowd) are those for whom, because of faith, sex without marriage is not within their range of moral options. They may need to be open regarding living arrangements those first few years and make some financial sacrifices. Call me a dreamer, but I’d like to see that claiming adulthood in faith become more popular.

    I also think that there is an idolatry of the “perfect wedding” and the “honeymoon.” I think part of the reason people move in together because the wedding and the honeymoon will take years to save for, and who wants to wait those two years? I think shorter engagements and less expensive weddings ought to become the norm. In our consumer society that may be another foolish thought.

    Raw and unrefined. Fire away.

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